UROK
A Story of Loss, Growth, & Hope inspired from 4 Good Men Lost
Rather than the classic ’90s rom-com Four Weddings and a Funeral, part of my story could be called Four Funerals and a Wedding - a tragic bromance. Losing my brother and three close friends to suicide has profoundly shaped my work, influencing almost everything I do, and reminding me that wellbeing isn’t optional - it’s essential.
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In 2025 I took to the stage and delivered my TEDx talk - UROK: A Tale Inspired by 4 Good Men Lost
— a personal exploration of inner dialogue, happiness, and post-traumatic growth. The ideas shared on that stage have profoundly shaped my work, influencing almost everything I do.
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Check out the TEDx talk below, then scroll down for a snapshot of the 6 life lessons gifted to me by 4 Good Men Lost
6 Life Lessons
Happiness isn't a goal, it's a habit
Focus on what brings you happiness today – don’t wait for “I’ll be happy when __________.”
It's good to talk, but better to listen
Growing up in the ’80s, we talked a lot of sh#t - if we’d gone deeper, we’d have been happier.
Have faith, but tie your camel
Lead with faith and goodwill but balance it with a touch of pragmatism.
A conversation can change a life
Language has the power to connect us and carry us through life's challenges.
What stands in the way becomes the way
No matter the card you've been dealt, there is always an opportunity in the obstacle.
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Lead with love & kindness
Long after the trophies gather dust, it’s how you made people feel that will be remembered.
